Every person has their way of dealing with emotions.
Prinses has to speak her mind. Say what is bothering her. If she cannot do so it will come out another way. Most of the time by being confrontational but sometimes by crying.
When it was just her, she could bawl her eyes out, but now she has to share her space and has to be considerate of others. You could say she has less personal space now.
Most people will not understand the importance of personal space.
Personal space is especially important to people like Prinses who are struggling to keep it together.
Her emotions!
As a young child Prinses would get yelled at or spanked for crying. She was taught to suck it up and not show emotions. She is however full of emotions. She always has been, which makes communicating with other people very difficult. Something minor might trigger a complete meltdown and since she was not taught how to deal with it, it will manifest itself in many ways. The worst thing she can do is not talk about it but that is what she is struggling with the most. How do you talk to people who do not understand you. She does not want pity. She just wants someone to listen and understand without taking anything personal. She just wants to be heard. #scream #frustration #emotions
School and Work!
In school, Prinses would opt out of doing group projects if she could. If forced to work in groups, she would technically do all the work so the lazy kids did not mind joining her team. You are right, she was not much of a team player at all. In middle school she joined clubs, so sports helped her out a little. The home situation was not the best so being out with her peers doing something she excelled at helped with the distraction.
If you ask her, she is a great asset to any team, but her stubborn and dictating attitude would most likely get her in trouble with her teammates. There is no I in team right. Hey, at least she can be somewhat honest about it now. It did take a while. LOL.
She is a problem solver and will not rest until she solves any problem put in front of her. She would take any matter with her to bed and would dream about better solutions for future cases. I guess you can call her an overthinker. Her mind is always in process mode.
Teammates, co-workers and friends tend to see qualities in her that she doesn’t but that probably means that she needs to continue working on improvement. She is currently a better team player than she used to be, but there is still room for improvement.
Dealing with the mood swings!
Those are not easy, and some days are better than others. Talking to us and knowing that sharing her story might help others does seem to calm her down. We hope that it does not take another mood swing to write the next blog. #lol
She has difficulty communicating with her husband since he works most of the time and when he is home, she may be struggling with one of her many mood swings and therefore unapproachable. She knows he does not understand how to deal with her, but it is equally frustrating that she only has him to talk to most of the time.
She might seek company outside which has gotten her in trouble in the past. The attention was in different forms if you know what I mean. Now she reads more, joins volunteering events and is steadily seeking motivation to go back to body building.
Her moods will have her organize gatherings to be amongst people, but the next day or so she prefers being alone again. #introvertedextrovert
Controlling nature causes trouble!
If you ask Prinses to describe her character, she would most likely be honest enough to say that she tends to be overbearing sometimes. You might even say controlling. She prefers things done a certain way.
She has a certain way of doing almost everything. She has a certain way of folding clothes. A certain way of putting dishes away. A certain way of cleaning the house. Name it! She is not necessarily a neat freak since the house can be messy once in a while, but when she works, she wants it all done a certain way.
Her husband however does not appreciate her “OCD” behavior, as he calls it, much. She might start complaining if he does not put back the folded clothes a certain way or not clean up after himself when cooking. She also gets annoyed if she needs to ask for help more than once to assemble furniture for example. She is used to doing things herself, but by asking she tries to include others. If she has to ask more than once, she will do it herself.
She recently decided that as difficult as it will be for her to do, she will try and keep her mouth shut. Not complaint about chores not done and so on and so forth. As a compromise for not complaining she will do her chores when she feels like it.
We are curious to hear from her how that pans out. #facepalm
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